Banish Low Self-Esteem
Do you suffer from low self-esteem? The symptoms
are unmistakable – and you will be the first to admit that low
self-esteem can be very debilitating.
People who have never suffered
from low self-esteem can’t imagine how it can drain energy. But for
those who suffer from it day in and day out the signs are all too
familiar:
No one likes me for who I am
No one respects me
I could never hope to achieve what I secretly desire
I'm not worthy
I don't add value to anyone's life.
We won’t continue. It’s too
self-defeating. No doubt you can recognize one or two of the symptoms.
Maybe they have a special significance for you.
The case against low self-esteem
You may think that having a
low self-image is a self-deprecating but rather harmless personality
problem. In actual fact, it is not as innocuous as it would seem.
Under-estimating yourself is
one of the worst punishments that you can inflict upon yourself.
Low self-esteem is the mother
of many personality-based problems - with a nasty brood of unpleasant
offspring - and some of them are downright mean!
The following are just a few
of the personality problems that can be traced right back to the root
cause of low-self-esteem. They are:
- Self-consciousness
- Timidity
- Over-sensitivity
- Feelings of rejection
- Inability to make decisions
- Perfectionism - the self-defeating drive to
be perfect
- Attention seeking
- Withdrawal into yourself
- Stinginess
- Aggression
The bottom line is that low
self-esteem dramatically reduces your chances of success in life. With
a low self-image you are afraid to extend yourself. And as a result,
no matter how badly you may want something, your lack of self-esteem
will work against you to undermine all your efforts.
By placing a low value on
yourself you are always shooting yourself in the foot. Lack of
confidence means that you do not believe in yourself or trust your
abilities. And if you do not believe in yourself, who will?
It’s all very well, you may
feel, but this is my character. It’s a part of my belief system. If I
suffer from a lack of self-confidence what can I possibly do about it?
Let me put another question to
you.
If you had evidence –
written evidence to prove that you were better than you ever imagined
– and I mean real proof in writing - would it convince you? Wouldn’t
it change the way you thought about yourself?
How would you feel if you
found new and actual hard evidence to prove that you possessed
properties that you could be proud of? Would this change your
self-perception, your opinion of yourself?
Of course it would! And this
is exactly where handwriting analysis can help. In fact, this is one
of the most important benefits of handwriting analysis because -
There are indications in
your handwriting that can provide you with the written proof of
hidden strengths that exist in your personality – strengths that
until now have probably just been lying there dormant and unnoticed.
Yes! Real and concrete
evidence that will boost your self-image to greater heights is hidden
in your very own handwriting! This information is built into the
various structures of your handwriting. In fact, hiding within these
structures are strengths that you may not even be aware of.
Identify these personality
strengths and it will lead to greater confidence! Discover your
strengths and you will have opened the door to a whole new world of
possibility and achievement.
A healthy self-image is vital
It’s easy to see why it is so
important to have a healthy self-image. Because confidence goes hand
in hand with achievement. A healthy self-image is vital for success in
any field. If you have a healthy self-image it means that you believe
in yourself; and this is essential if you want to achieve your goals.
Good self-esteem allows
you to access the source of your personal power - and the ability to
use that personal power is the magic key to success.
In any profession or
occupation, confidence has direct bearing on achievement. Motivational
books and tapes flood the market – all with the same message; feel
confident and you will succeed. Believe in yourself and you will find
the road to money and success.
It’s important in sport too.
To be successful, an athlete has to believe that he can go out there
and excel on the track. Many great sport stars like tennis players or
boxers constantly psyche themselves up and even engage professional
gurus to motivate them. "You can do it!" has become a powerful, almost
magical mantra.
Our self-perception plays an
important role in our relationships too – because each and every
relationship is profoundly concerned with how we value ourselves. To
be loved we have to feel worthy of love. But behave like a reject and
rejection will surely follow.
What is over-confidence?
Unfortunately there is also
another side to the coin, where too much self-esteem manifests as
over-confidence. In fact, over-confidence has a nasty way of spoiling
your aim so that you tend to overshoot your target. Over confidence
has a negative effect in that it can produce the opposite of what you
are trying to achieve.
Sometimes, when self-esteem is
very low we start to play an elaborate little game known as
over-compensation. Our minds begin to play tricks on us simply to
protect our egos.
And so, even though we may be
suffering from a low self-image, we pretend to be supremely confident.
It hides the dreadful insecurity that we feel inside with a type of
charade or act of bravado. There are some who even become arrogant and
hostile simply to disguise that empty feeling of insufficiency.
Small wonder, then, that we
find it so difficult to understand ourselves and others!
Fortunately, handwriting
analysis provides us with a quick and reliable way to evaluate many of
these confusing areas of personality.
An analysis of handwriting can
give you an unbiased assessment of your abilities and shortcomings. It
can give you an assessment of your feeling of self-worth and the
degree to which you believe in yourself.
With almost no effort on your
part you can arrive at an amazingly accurate estimate of your feeling
of self-worth. And of course there are no invasive tests or lengthy
questionnaires. A single page of handwriting will do the trick – and
you can learn about many aspects of your personality with amazing
detail.
Handwriting analysis is a
valuable tool. It is over and above a simple personality test. Not
only can it help you to pin-point certain personality-based problems,
but it can also assist you to identify positive personality traits
that need to be more fully utilized. It will give you access to your
strengths.
With this sound basis of
self-knowledge you will develop a new self-confidence. You will
acquire a new feeling of self-worth.
This is the most valuable gift
that you can give yourself. It is the doorway to a successful future.
Open it!
If you too, would like to
understand the real message behind handwriting take a look at the
fascinating resources here:
How to understand
handwriting
